Would you recognize him if he passed you by…
Would you stop dead in your tracks to tell him he’s appreciated…
So easily mistaken & overlooked is he…
A good man…
Sadly you’ve been played, blinded by the flashing illusion of what some claim is…
A good man…
You’ve been hurt so many times by the fakes that claim to be him you’ve been tricked by money , the status, sex, the looks, yes they look good…but are they?
A good man would u recognize his efforts would u recognize his drive to become something better?
Would you recognize him even tho he ain’t fly, rich or got it going on like that would u recognize this man?
The better question to ask is… could u handle…..A good man
The poem I wrote above, as well as the song sung by Ciara, both illustrate why many woman today might pass up a good man. This is not to be confused with the women today who typically like “bad boys’. Personally I like the good guys, the underdog, the nerd, the dude most chicks would put in the friend zone. The problem with that situation is that most of them like “bad girls”. It’s almost like we have this crazy craving to be hurt over and over again. I don’t care for a challenge. Love is not a game! Well at least not to me it isn’t!
Some of the “bad boys” are now pretending to be “good guys”! This is generally where a lot of women get fooled into dating a jerk. The first few days he says every thing you ever wanted to hear and you find yourself saying “Wow, he’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a guy!” Then you meet the real him and regret it all and start to become a really big skeptic. Now you don’t know which is which, who is what, and you become jaded.
Some women would have the opportunity to meet a great guy and pass him up or treat him like garbage. Then proceed to whatever social media they have to complain about how there are no good men left in the world.
Some want an already established man. Looking for the come up might leave you down and out. In the past, many women have struggled with a man because they saw potential in him, believed in his dreams and ambition and support him in many ways so they can be established together.Now there’s a catch to this because you might struggle with this man only to have him leave you once he’s made it and more than likely get him a trophy wife. (which he will later complain is only with him for his money, divorce and take half of what you worked hard and helped him build, smh).
The other side of that is there are men out there looking for women to take care of them and don’t necessarily have dreams or ambition. Sadly women stay with these guys because of their plumbing skills of laying pipes.
Some women want a protector. A guy that they feel if a situation rises he can defend them physically. Some times these guys are the one these women needs protection from. This isn’t always the case but it has happened.
But, for the most part, many women have been hurt, cheated, mentally and physically abused and left confused. So they meet this once and a lifetime prince charming but can barely recognize him with all their past baggage in front of them. So many issues that make it hard to know who’s playing around and who’s not. And when they finally get this man that they have been dreaming of they can’t believe what is going on and lose sight of how to keep the man. You’ve wanted this man for so long…now he’s here…and you can’t even handle him.
So before you question where the good men are in this world. Question yourself first? Are you really ready for him? Will you do what it takes to keep him? Will you be his confidant, his support system, his backbone, his lover, his chef, the mother to his children, his queen? Are you really ready to recognize him and leave your past behind?
Keep looking in the past and you’ll trip on your future!!!
-Slices of Mango
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